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(Your humble correspondent is feeling exceptionally cranky today, so prepare for even less tact than usual.)

Recently, a scumbucket pervert misogynistic motherf***ing hacker stole a lot of nude photos of famous women and posted them online. And a lot of people who really should know better have said really stupid s*** like “it’s her own fault, because she posted them online”. All together now, let us respond from the First Book of Crankitude: “BULL-F***ing-S***”.

This is victim-blaming crap, and it is usually done to women. It takes many forms. A few examples:
“She should have known better than to have nude pictures of herself”;
“She shouldn’t have been drinking”;
“She shouldn’t have gone to a party”;
Or, of course, this writer’s pet peeve; “She was asking for it, dressing that way”.

All of these statements are pretty much equivalent: they are designed to control and degrade women, and have been used towards that end with (sadly) great success. And uttering any of them makes the speaker the moral equivalent of a peeping tom, Fundagelical wingnut preacher, rapist, or all of the above.

We don’t often (if ever) say these things about men. We don’t apply these antediluvian judgements to men. No, it’s pretty much always women who get the shame & blame treatment.

Until men are treated the same way as women, let’s all just stop treating women as if we were living in the dark f***ing ages. That isn’t really all that much to ask.

Mister Blunt and Cranky

Recently the New York Times did a piece on the Torrington CT rape cases, and it exposed some serious underlying reasons for our nation’s problem with rape culture. Disturbing reasons.

There were the usual revolting attitudes towards sexual assault, of course: victim-blaming, slut-shaming, you know the steaming loads of donkey bollocks that rape apologists throw around. And there was something said by one Kenneth Traub, chairman of the Board of education. Something that shows just how out of touch adults have become.

He said, quoting here; “I put no weight in any comments made online. I don’t believe in Facebook. I don’t believe in Twitter”. Meaning by this that anything said over social media is unimportant.

You got that? Since he doesn’t use these tools, they have no value. This is, of course, antediluvian bulls***: such postings are court-admissible evidence, for crying out loud. Indeed, two Steubenville rapists are currently doing time after being convicted based partly on social media postings.

Because of this stupid a** hole’s willful ignorance, not a single student has been brought up before a special board that was set up by less-clueless adults. The board is to deal with cyber-bullying. And since Mr. Traub does not believe in cyber-anything, he will not use the tools available to solve the problem. And so the problem continues to get worse.

These are the people who are supposed to educate our children. People who are deliberately choosing not to live in the same world their students inhabit. And they wonder why they aren’t getting their message across? Christ on a trampoline, really?

Memo to Mr. Traub, and all who think like he does: you are failing us, you are failing our children, and you bear part of the blame for the sexual assaults perpetrated upon our daughters. You carry this guilt because you choose not to take the actions required to address the problems of the real world in which our girls get raped.

And because you choose not to address the problem, you are, effectively, accessories to rape. Your mothers would be so proud.

Mr. Blunt and Cranky

Yes, that’s right: two 13-year-old girls were raped in Torrington, CT not long ago, and for all the bulls*** being spewed by the Pro-Rape contingent in that town and elsewhere, the cops keep arresting people: http://www.newsobserver.com/2013/03/28/2785524/4th-conn-teen-charged-in-sexual.html

So much for the “no big deal” crap we’ve been hearing from a**holes around the country. So much for the “what was she doing hanging around football players” crap, the “she wanted it” crap, the “slut, whore, bitch” crap, and all the other bits of s*** being slung at the victims. Cops almost never bust men for sex crimes when no sex crimes have been committed. Hell, cops oftentimes don’t bust men for sex crimes when there HAVE been sex crimes committed.

Yes, it really happened. Yes, it’s completely and totally the fault of the rapists. No, it’s not the girl’s fault. Period. End of story. Fin.

Mr Blunt and Cranky